Assalamu alaikum, barkanmu da sake saduwa. A wannan rubutu za mu tattauna muhimmin batu mai matukar tasiri a rayuwar iyali, wato hakkokin aure. Wannan batu yana daga cikin ginshikan zaman lafiya tsakanin miji da mata, kuma rashin fahimtarsa kan janyo matsaloli da dama a cikin aure.
Hakkokin Aure
Aure a Musulunci ba kawai haduwar mace da namiji ba ne, illa wata alaka ce mai tsarki wadda aka gina bisa adalci, girmamawa da hakkoki na juna.
Allah (SWT) Ya halicci aure ne domin:
- Samun kwanciyar hankali
- Gina soyayya da rahama
- Samar da zuri’a ta gari
Saboda haka, sanin hakkokin aure yana taimakawa wajen tabbatar da zaman lafiya da dorewar soyayya tsakanin ma’aurata.
Menene Hakkokin Aure?
Hakkokin aure su ne abubuwan da addini da al’ada suka wajabta wa miji da mata domin su rayu cikin fahimta da jituwa.
Wadannan hakkoki sun kasu kashi biyu:
- Hakkokin mace a kan miji
- Hakkokin miji a kan mace
Kiyaye wadannan hakkoki shi ne sirrin samun kwanciyar aure.
Hakkokin Mace a Kan Mijinta
1. Samar da Muhalli Mai Kyau
Ya zama wajibi ga miji ya samar wa matarsa wurin zama mai kyau gwargwadon karfinsa.
Wurin ya kasance:
- Mai tsabta
- Mai tsaro
- Mai kare mutuncinta
Wannan yana nuna kulawa da darajar mace a cikin aure.
2. Ciyarwa da Shayarwa
Miji yana da alhakin ciyar da matarsa da samar mata da abin sha.
Allah Ya umurta cewa:
- Mai hali ya ciyar gwargwadon wadata
- Wanda ba shi da yawa ya yi iya kokarinsa
Abinci mai kyau yana daga cikin abubuwan da ke kara jin dadin zama tare.
3. Tufatar da Ita
Miji ya kamata ya samar wa matarsa tufafi masu kyau gwargwadon halinsa.
Ya zama:
- Tufafi masu tsafta
- Masu rufe jiki
- Masu dacewa da yanayi
Wannan yana kara daraja da mutuncin mace.
4. Biya Mata Bukatunta
Daya daga cikin manyan hakkokin mace shi ne biyan bukatunta ta aure cikin halal.
Wannan yana:
- Kare mutuncinta
- Kara kusanci tsakanin ma’aurata
- Rage yiwuwar sabani
Rashin kulawa da wannan hakki na iya janyo matsala mai girma a aure.
5. Koyar da Ita Addini
Miji yana da alhakin koyar da matarsa abubuwan addini ko samar mata da hanyar koyo.
Wannan ya hada da:
- Sallah
- Ibadah
- Tarbiyya
Domin mace ita ce ginshikin tarbiyyar gida, idan ta gyaru, gida zai gyaru.
6. Kyakkyawar Mu’amala
Miji ya kasance mai tausayi da kyautatawa matarsa.
Ya guji:
- Zagi
- Duka mai cutarwa
- Wulakanci
Kyautatawa ita ce hanyar samun soyayya mai dorewa.
7. Kare Sirrinta
Ya zama haramun miji ya rika bayyana sirrin matarsa.
Sirrin aure ya hada da:
- Abubuwan sirri na gida
- Maganganun juna
- Rayuwar su ta sirri
Kare sirri yana kara yarda da aminci.
8. Ba Ta Izinin Fita Idan Ya Kamata
Miji ya kamata ya ba matarsa izinin fita idan akwai bukata kamar:
- Zuwa asibiti
- Ziyartar iyaye
- Karatu ko aiki
Amma cikin mutunci da kiyaye sharuddan addini.
Hakkokin Miji a Kan Matarsa
1. Biyayya Cikin Alheri
Mace ta kasance mai biyayya ga mijinta a cikin abubuwan da suka dace da addini.
Biyayya tana:
- Kara zaman lafiya
- Rage sabani
- Gina mutunci
2. Kula da Gida
Mace tana da rawar kula da gida da tsarinsa.
Wannan ya hada da:
- Tsafta
- Kula da yara
- Shirya abinci
Wannan aiki ne mai daraja a Musulunci.
3. Kare Mutuncin Miji
Mace ta kare mutuncin mijinta a cikin:
- Magana
- Hali
- Mu’amala da mutane
Kada ta fallasa sirrinsa ko ta wulakanta shi.
4. Kula da Kanta
Mace ta kula da:
- Tsaftar jikinta
- Kamanninta
- Lafiyarta
Wannan yana kara soyayya da sha’awa tsakanin ma’aurata.
5. Karbar Bukatar Miji
Mace ta amsa bukatar mijinta cikin ladabi da girmamawa, sai dai idan akwai uzuri na halal.
Wannan yana:
- Kara kusanci
- Kare aure daga fitina
6. Gujewa Abubuwan Da Ke Jawo Matsala
Mace ta guji:
- Zagi
- Tashin hankali
- Raina miji
Hakuri da natsuwa suna taimakawa wajen dorewar aure.
Hakkokin Juna Tsakanin Ma’aurata
Akwai hakkoki da suke shafi duka bangarorin biyu.
1. Soyayya da Tausayi
Allah Ya sanya soyayya da rahama a tsakanin ma’aurata.
Ya kamata su:
- Nuna kulawa
- Yi magana mai dadi
- Taimaki juna
2. Girmamawa
Girmama juna yana daga cikin muhimman ginshikan aure.
A guji:
- Cin mutunci
- Wulakanci
- Raini
3. Sadarwa Mai Kyau
Magana cikin fahimta tana rage matsala sosai.
Ya kamata:
- A saurari juna
- A bayyana damuwa cikin natsuwa
4. Hakuri da Yafe Juna
Babu aure mara sabani.
Amma:
- Hakuri yana warware matsala
- Yafe juna yana kara soyayya
Muhimmancin Kiyaye Hakkokin Aure
Kiyaye hakkokin aure yana da anfani mai yawa:
- Yana kawo zaman lafiya
- Yana kara soyayya
- Yana rage sabani
- Yana gina iyali mai kyau
Rashin kiyaye su kuwa na iya janyo:
- Rikici
- Saki
- Rashin kwanciyar hankali
Matsalolin Da Ke Taso Saboda Rashin Kiyaye Hakkoki
Wasu daga cikin matsalolin sun hada da:
- Rashin girmamawa
- Rashin kulawa
- Rashin sadarwa
- Zargi da rashin yarda
Maganin wadannan shi ne komawa ga koyarwar addini da fahimtar juna.
Shawarwari Ga Ma’aurata
Domin samun aure mai dadi:
- Ku san hakkokin juna
- Ku rika tattaunawa cikin natsuwa
- Ku kasance masu hakuri
- Ku guji sauraron maganganun da za su lalata aure
- Ku yawaita addu’a
Rawar Addini Wajen Kiyaye Hakkokin Aure
Addini yana koyar da:
- Adalci
- Tausayi
- Hakuri
- Kyautata mu’amala
Ma’aurata da suke rike addini suna samun saukin warware matsaloli.
Kammalawa
Hakkokin aure su ne ginshikin zaman lafiya da dorewar soyayya tsakanin ma’aurata. Idan miji da mata suka fahimci wadannan hakkoki kuma suka kiyaye su, za su samu rayuwa mai cike da farin ciki da kwanciyar hankali.
Aure ba ya bukatar kudi kadai, yana bukatar:
- Fahimta
- Hakuri
- Soyayya
- Girmamawa
A karshe, Allah Ya sa mu dace da kiyaye hakkokin juna, Ya sanya aurenmu ya zama na rahama da albarka, Ya kuma ba mu ikon gina iyalai nagari. Ameen.